It’s easy to feel disconnected, as many parents juggle work, school, kids, and activity after activity. But some simple things can bring a family closer — playing a game, going for a hike, or cooking a meal together.
One of the most satisfying, fun, and productive ways to unite is doing Chesed. Chesed or volunteerism also sets a good example for your kids and helps the community.
Why should your family do chessed?
It feels good. The satisfaction and pride that come from helping others are important reasons to do Chesed and volunteer. When you commit your time and effort to an organization or a cause you feel strongly about, the feeling of fulfillment can be endless.
It strengthens your community. Organizations and agencies that use volunteers are providing important services at low or no cost to those who need them. When a community is doing well as a whole, its individuals are better off, too.
It can strengthen your family. Doing Chesed is a great way for families to have fun and feel closer. But many people say they don't have the time to do Chesed and volunteer after fulfilling work and family commitments. If that's the case, try rethinking some of your free time as a family. You could select just one or two projects a year and make them a family tradition (for example, making and donating gift baskets to care facilities for the elderly around the Chagim).
If doing Chesed begins at an early age, it can become part of children’s’ lives — something they might just expect and want to do.
It can teach them:
A sense of responsibility. By doing Chesed, kids and teens learn what it means to make and keep a commitment. They learn how to be on time for a job, do their best, and be proud of the results. But they also learn that, ultimately, we're all responsible for the well-being of Klal Yisrael and our communities.
That one person can make a difference. A wonderful, empowering message for kids is that they're important enough to have an impact on someone or something else.
The benefit of sacrifice. By giving up a toy to a less fortunate child, a child learns that sometimes it's good to sacrifice. Cutting back on recreation time to help one’s local community tells kids that there are important things besides ourselves and our immediate needs.
Tolerance. Working in community service and doing Chesed for others can bring kids and teens in touch with people of different backgrounds, abilities, ethnicities, ages, and education and income levels. They'll learn that even the most diverse individuals can be united by common values.
Job skills. Sometimes Chesed can even help young people decide on their future careers. Are they interested in the medical field? Hospitals and clinics often have teenage volunteer programs. Learning to work as a team member, taking on leadership roles, setting project goals — these are all skills that can be gained by doing Chesed and volunteering and will serve kids well in any future career.
How to fill idle time wisely. If kids aren't involved in traditional after-school activities, community service and doing Chesed can be a wonderful alternative.